Buddy the Bulldog: Life Lessons from a Loyal Friend
As I grow, grow up, and grow older, life-lessons befall me with greater clarity, understanding, timeliness, and (hopefully) acceptance. Much of the drama of youth is displaced by the quiet realization of knowing what I can change and what I cannot, though loss is never a lesson I wish to learn over again and again. Accepting the loss of my beloved bulldog Buddy has yet to be realized. I still sense him at the foot of my bed or hear his bark on the other side of the back door. I still expect to see his wiggly butt and impromptu tap dance anytime I return home.
At twelve years old, Buddy enjoyed a good life. He was the heartbeat of the farm, the front-porch pontiff, the cuddly claim-jumper, and the most noble of nappers. I could not have loved him more. He loved me too, and trusted me as his personal chef and on-demand valet. As Buddy got older, he solidified his self-appointed role as the boss of me, only eating his preferred treats, sitting on my feet when he wanted something, barking if I missed dinner times by mere milliseconds, and whining to go upstairs when he deemed it bedtime. His internal clock had no use for Daylight Savings time. His schedule was set by DNA. He would exit out the front door for his daily “business trips” only to insist on re-entering through the back porch door. I have no doubt he’d still be positioned at that door had I not opened it.
As Buddy got older, he required help up the stairs. I called it Buddy’s butt lift. I would lean into stairs like a tripod, feet on lower stairs while my right arm rested two steps above for stability and support. My left hand would cup Buddy’s butt, which I would lift like a lever every time he climbed a step with his front legs. My arm curl workout was aided by a trail of dog treats on every other step which helped move things along. If you’re thinking why didn’t he just sleep downstairs, I can assure you, I tried to persuade him of this easier approach, but he wasn’t having it. Upstairs under a Hudson Bay Blanket at the foot of my bed was his place.
Buddy: Mayor for the People and the Pets
Buddy was Vashon’s Unofficial Mayor two years ago, running as the candidate for non-profit Vashon Island Pet Protectors. His year in “office” was a wonderful string of meet-and-greets and being a part of community events. People we so kind and caring toward him, and to island kids, he held rock-star status. Buddy also started the Thank You Vashon Facebook page, where folks could thank others in the community for thoughtful gestures or supportive, generous acts. He had a big heart.
Buddy also delighted in the best gig on the island: demo dog (uh, I mean model) for The Northwest School of Massage, where they treated him like a king. After being massaged for demonstration purposes for two hours, Buddy would return home as you’d expect: blissed out and ready for a well-deserved nap.
Tom’s Covid Art Project: Buddy as My Muse
During the pandemic, Buddy and I embarked on a playful re-imagining of famous works of art. At first, Buddy was a reluctant model. But with a little coaxing and a lot of treats, he rose to the occasion to make art (and me laugh), all while cooped up at the farm for weeks on end. Here’s a sampling below:
Thank You Friends of Buddy
On behalf of Buddy, thank you for all the love, well-wishes, butt-rubs, head-pats and faraway swoons. Buddy brought out the best in people. He was kind, loving and chill. And he even forgave the discourteous onlookers who felt the need to share, “that’s a only face a mother could love.” Buddy just ignored their limited view of beauty; Buddy loved everyone. To paraphrase Will Rogers, he never met a person he didn’t like. And perhaps that is his greatest legacy: unconditional love. I’ll miss you Buddy, but you’ll always be in my heart.